What does it mean to be a nice guy? Doesn't everybody want to do good things? I like to try to follow the Golden Rule, to do unto others as you would have others do unto you. I think that if I am nice to others and make them happy, then I feel happy myself. It is because "good things come back to you." So, I often try to do good things for others to make them happy.
In fact, I actually think it's easier for guys to act as "nice guys" (although I think girls can too), since guys are usually more willing to be nice to girls, in hope that the girls will reciprocate. Also for close friends, if one party wants to be a close friend, but the other person doesn't really care, then they still will not become close friends. It seems that any type of inter-human relationship requires reciprocity. Nice guys don't get this, and that they shouldn't waste their time if there's no reciprocity. If the other side doesn't reciprocate, then it seems somewhat foolish to continue acting nicely. This isn't to say that you should act badly towards someone, just that one could be neutral, neither good nor bad.
As for myself, I like being nice to people and making them happy, so that it is somewhat easy for me to become a "nice guy." When I find out, however, then I refuse to go along. I have a lot of good friends -- I'm nice to them, and they're nice to me, so that everyone is happy. Why should I continue to waste my time? I don't know. I deserve better than that.
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好人的意思是什麼？大家不是想要為別人做好事嗎？我喜歡遵守金科玉律，你想別人對你怎麼樣，就對他們怎麼樣。我覺得要是對別人好，能讓他們覺得開心，自己就覺得開心，是因為善有善報。那樣子的我通常為別人做好事來讓他們覺得快樂。
其實我的看法是男生比較容易當好人（但是我覺得女生也可以當），這是因為男生比較原意開始對女生好，希望女生會對等他、對他好。或許講好朋友的話，要是一個人想當好朋友，但是對方覺得無所謂，那樣還不是好朋友。好像各種各類的人之間的關系都需要對等。好人不了解這方面，沒有對等就不用浪費時間。對方不對等你的好的話，繼續對他們好有點像個呆子一樣。這不是說要對對方不好，只是說好的和不好的都不用做。
我自己因為喜歡對別人好、讓他們覺得開心，所以有時候容易當個好人。但是我發現之後，絕對當好人了。我有很多的好朋友，我對他悶好，他們也對我好，大家都開心。為什麼要浪費我的詩間呢？我也不知道。你們的回應總該是正面的吧。
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