What does it mean to be a nice guy? Doesn't everybody want to do good things? I like to try to follow the Golden Rule, to do unto others as you would have others do unto you. I think that if I am nice to others and make them happy, then I feel happy myself. It is because "good things come back to you." So, I often try to do good things for others to make them happy.
In fact, I actually think it's easier for guys to act as "nice guys" (although I think girls can too), since guys are usually more willing to be nice to girls, in hope that the girls will reciprocate. Also for close friends, if one party wants to be a close friend, but the other person doesn't really care, then they still will not become close friends. It seems that any type of inter-human relationship requires reciprocity. Nice guys don't get this, and that they shouldn't waste their time if there's no reciprocity. If the other side doesn't reciprocate, then it seems somewhat foolish to continue acting nicely. This isn't to say that you should act badly towards someone, just that one could be neutral, neither good nor bad.
As for myself, I like being nice to people and making them happy, so that it is somewhat easy for me to become a "nice guy." When I find out, however, then I refuse to go along. I have a lot of good friends -- I'm nice to them, and they're nice to me, so that everyone is happy. Why should I continue to waste my time? I don't know. I deserve better than that.
目前分類：了解人 (4)
- Apr 29 Wed 2009 20:45
Nice Guys and Reciprocity .. 好人與對等
- Mar 31 Tue 2009 22:30
想要和快樂
大家都要快樂。快樂和想要有什麼關係？快樂是努力追求自己希望的事情還是簡單地享受自己擁有的東西？
我認為追求自己想要的東西是快樂的，只是如果自己覺得得不到想要的，那就成為失望，並不快樂。進步等於快樂，慢的快的都可以。要是進不了步，得不到自己想要的，那樣子的怎麼快樂？另一個方法是享受自己所擁有的，減少想要的，那樣子的也快樂。這種快樂仿佛最簡單，但是有時候減少自己的希望真不容易，也有可能不對。
- Apr 07 Mon 2008 02:46
介紹
「小說是寫給人看的。小說的內容是人。小說寫一個人、幾個人、一群人、或成千成萬人的性格和感情。他們的性格和感情從橫面的環境中反映出來，從縱面的遭遇中反映出來，從人與人之間的交往與關係中反映出來。」金庸
部落格是寫給誰看的？部落格的內容是甚麼？部落格是寫給大家看的，寫給沒有人看的。當然在網路上開放寫部落格，在一方面是給大家看的，但是在另一方面，因為我不是一個有名的作家，我沒有甚麼驚人感動的文章，所以我的部落格通常會寫給空氣的小和風看的。一來就走了。那我寫部落格的理由是甚麼？
第一，我的中文雖然到達了一定的水平，但是我覺得中文還不夠好。我寫部落格的話，可以好好練習我的中文。還有，我從小時候習慣用英文想東西，現在我需要把我的英文想法改為用中文的，這樣才會流流利利地用中文。
